When my lover refused to end her marriage, you helped me end it with her | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: MY married lover promised to leave her husband, but five years on nothing had changed.

I knew I should end the relationship, but I didn’t have the strength.

I’m 32 and my lover is 40. We met at work and had a one-night stand, which somehow turned into an affair.

Gradually, I realised I was wasting my life on someone who would never give me what I needed – commitment and a family.

I wrote asking for guidance.

You told me what I needed to hear: she was having her cake and eating it too.

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She was never going to leave because she had no reason to. You said it was time to give her an ultimatum.

You also suggested I speak to someone impartial, and sent me your support pack, Your Lover Not Free.

I plucked up the courage to tell my lover how I felt, and decided to end our relationship.

It wasn’t easy at first, but a few months on, I am so much happier.

Thank you.

DEIDRE SAYS: Well done on breaking this unhealthy cycle.

Now you can look to the future and find a woman who will give you 100 per cent commitment.

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