{"id":235965,"date":"2023-12-11T00:04:44","date_gmt":"2023-12-11T00:04:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mystylenews.com\/?p=235965"},"modified":"2023-12-11T00:04:44","modified_gmt":"2023-12-11T00:04:44","slug":"my-advice-for-taylor-on-dealing-with-people-who-are-truly-toxic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mystylenews.com\/lifestyle\/my-advice-for-taylor-on-dealing-with-people-who-are-truly-toxic\/","title":{"rendered":"My advice for Taylor on dealing with people who are truly toxic"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1> DR MAX PEMBERTON: My advice for Taylor on dealing with people who are truly toxic<\/h1>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Dr Max says resist the temptation to shrink away in the face of a toxic person<\/b><\/li>\n<li><strong>READ MORE:\u00a0\u00a0Mind Doctor MAX PEMBERTON reveals in the wake of the fallout between Holly and Phil why he had to end one friendship<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>During the course of our lives, most of us will come across someone who is toxic. This isn\u2019t someone whom we simply don\u2019t like or don\u2019t get along with. That is perfectly normal; we can\u2019t be friends with everyone.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>No, someone who is truly toxic has a certain ability to spread discord and distress for no discernible reason except for the upset that it causes.<\/p>\n<p>Toxic people seem to have an innate need to belittle and undermine others in order to make themselves feel better. It can be very disconcerting to find yourself confronted with them, as they seem not to obey any of the usual social conventions or pleasantries.<\/p>\n<p>Noxious, toxic people are in every walk of life, and wealth and fame offer no protection. Taylor Swift has discussed the emotional and psychological fallout of her feud with Kim Kardashian. The pair fell out after Kim backed her then husband Kanye West in a row about his lyrics that referenced Taylor.<\/p>\n<p>From reading Swift\u2019s account of what happened, it certainly sounds as though she had a pretty horrific experience, and it\u2019s hard not to conclude from her version of events that Kanye and Kim behaved abysmally.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/10\/23\/78799873-12847737-image-a-20_1702249364658.jpg\" height=\"845\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Taylor Swift, who has just been made Person of the Year by Time magazine,\u00a0 has discussed the emotional and psychological fallout of her feud with Kim Kardashian\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Swift responded to her run-in with them and the havoc it caused in her life by isolating for a year. She moved to a different country and vanished from public life.<\/p>\n<p>I think a lot of people respond to things like this by withdrawing. It can really shake your belief in people to the extent you\u2019re untrusting and wary of others for a long time after.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, Taylor Swift has had the last laugh \u2014 she\u2019s adored by her fans and has just been made Person of the Year by Time magazine.<\/p>\n<p>But while hiding away after a run-in with a toxic person can be helpful in the short term, a better approach is to push yourself to keep your head up and not give in to the temptation to shrink away.<\/p>\n<p>It can be a shock when you are confronted with toxic people like this, but the key is to appreciate that it\u2019s not really about you \u2014 it all says far more about them. You are just an incidental victim in their psychological turmoil.<\/p>\n<p>Just last weekend I was at a Christmas lunch with a large group of friends. I was on a table and sat opposite an \u2018influencer\u2019 who turned out to be one of the most obnoxious people I have ever come across.<\/p>\n<p>He was sullen and rude, to the point of offensiveness. At one point, he sighed loudly when someone was talking and said he wished he had been seated somewhere else as no one on the table was attractive.<\/p>\n<p>He was making some very personal and upsetting comments about people, including mocking their physical appearance.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/10\/23\/78799891-12847737-image-a-21_1702249377399.jpg\" height=\"951\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Kim Kardashian and Taylor Swift fell out after Kim backed her then husband Kanye West in a row about his lyrics that referenced Taylor<\/p>\n<p>On the table was a Jewish person and a Palestinian. As you can imagine, this was a delicate situation, but they are both lovely people and we all dealt with the situation with grace and good humour.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Whatever the awful situation thousands of miles away, we\u2019re all friends and it was lovely to see how that transcends politics.<\/p>\n<p>Except this man kept on and on goading them, making atrocious, inflammatory comments trying to get a rise out of them.<\/p>\n<p>None of us had met him before, and at first I gave him the benefit of the doubt and thought perhaps he was just trying to be funny in a misjudged and misguided way.<\/p>\n<p>But despite people trying to intervene and calm the situation, he continued. It became apparent that he was doing this on purpose. He wanted people to be upset.<\/p>\n<p>It became so unpleasant that in the end the person sitting next to me got up and went to cry in the toilet. He was so relentlessly unkind to every single person on the table, he was coming across more like a pantomime villain than a person.<\/p>\n<p>While people might follow him on Instagram because they think he\u2019s attractive, in the flesh, his ugly personality was all you could see. I very much just wanted to leave. But then I thought that the kind of person who would deliberately spread so much misery must be incredibly miserable himself. He must be profoundly unhappy.<\/p>\n<p>Really it was nothing about any of us sitting at the table, it was about him.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/10\/23\/78799865-12847737-image-a-22_1702249389344.jpg\" height=\"951\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Dr Max Pemberton advises keeping your head up and not giving in to the temptation to shrink away when you encounter a toxic person\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>And this realisation helped. He was craving attention, albeit in a perverse, nasty way, so I simply ignored him. He spoke and I didn\u2019t bat an eyelid. I looked straight through him and refused to give him the attention he so clearly craved.<\/p>\n<p>Slowly, others on the table started to do the same. He wanted to get a reaction and so we gave him none.<\/p>\n<p>We all moved away from him and by the end of the meal he was sitting next to the only other person he knew in the party.<\/p>\n<p>Eventually, he went up to the host and announced he was leaving because he was \u2018bored\u2019. No one said goodbye to him and no one missed him when he went. Instead, we all laughed at how awful he was and vowed to have an amazing night without him \u2014 the perfect way to neutralise a toxic person.<\/p>\n<p>Then later that evening we went out clubbing \u2014 the Palestinian, the Jew and everyone else \u2014 and danced to Taylor Swift.<\/p>\n<p><span><span><span>NHS staff <\/span><\/span><\/span><span><span><span>MUST be <\/span><\/span><\/span><span><span><span>jabbed<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>A new Covid variant \u2014 along with norovirus, flu and a viral \u2018100-day cough\u2019 \u2014 risks throwing A&amp;E services into chaos this winter.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Yet as few as one-fifth of NHS staff have had their Covid and flu jabs so far, despite many trusts making it incredibly easy for staff to get vaccinated.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In my trust, every site has a member of staff able to give the jabs, so you have to go out of your way to not get them.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/10\/23\/78799855-12847737-image-a-23_1702249400176.jpg\" height=\"423\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>As few as one-fifth of NHS staff have had their Covid and flu jabs so far, despite many trusts making it straightforward for staff to get vaccinated<\/p>\n<p>The result of staff not being vaccinated isn\u2019t just that they risk having to take time off work, affecting services; vaccines also protect their patients.\u00a0So it\u2019s time to insist that all staff get jabbed as a condition of their employment. We already have rules for other infections.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t be a doctor without hepatitis B vaccinations and chickenpox vaccine or immunity. You must be vaccinated or demonstrate immunity to TB. Are flu and Covid any different?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>We all know people who can hear things like \u2018Another slice of cake?\u2019 but fail to register others, such as requests for help at home.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>But it may not be \u2018selective hearing\u2019. Prof Gill Livingston, from UCL, thinks your ears may need support as, in time, higher-pitched (female) voices genuinely get harder to hear.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Antidepressants are being prescribed inappropriately to those who are lonely, rather than mentally ill, according to an open letter to the Government, which was published last week and raised concerns about the rate of prescribing.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve seen this myself \u2014 it\u2019s part of a wider trend of medicalising everyday distress \u2014 turning a normal, though admittedly unpleasant, everyday feeling or emotion into an illness.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Everyone who\u2019s sad is now depressed, everyone who\u2019s worried has anxiety and so forth. First, they should be getting emotional support.\u00a0Medicalising also suggests they can\u2019t do anything about their problems, so they now don\u2019t even try.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span>DR MAX PRESCRIBES&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>A local panto<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/12\/10\/23\/78799857-12847737-image-a-19_1702249346959.jpg\" height=\"423\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Many provincial theatres rely on panto income during the festive season to get them through the year<\/p>\n<p>There is nothing quite like a pantomime. It\u2019s perfect family entertainment, introducing children to ideas about morality and has a wonderful tradition steeped in folk law with the Mummers\u2019 plays.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Many provincial theatres rely on panto income to get them through the year, so they not only bring the family together, they support the arts, too.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Source: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailymail.co.uk\/femail\/article-12847737\/DR-MAX-PEMBERTON-advice-Taylor-dealing-people-truly-toxic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read Full Article<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>DR MAX PEMBERTON: My advice for Taylor on dealing with people who are truly toxic Dr Max says resist the temptation to shrink away in&hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":235964,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.8 - 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