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Rizi Timane wants to help every transgender person in the world — and he will do whatever he can to get his message to them.
If they’re looking for music, he has the perfect anthem that resonates with the transgender experience. Into reading? He wrote a book about his life. For those who are local to LA (or have access to email), his mailbox is always ready to accept their story. As a transgender man who was subjected to conversion therapy growing up in Nigeria, Timane is seeking to help anyone in any way he can — and that includes helping them financially as they transition.
The hope, Timane says, is to eliminate experiences like his. He wishes to help transgender adults and youth avoid mental health issues that consume a community that is already at risk. “It really started from my personal trauma,” Timane told POPSUGAR. When he came out as transgender at age 8 to his fundamentalist Christian parents, his identity was shrugged off as a phase.
When he was 12, he came out as a lesbian, and his parents placed him in conversion therapy. As a result, he spent many of the subsequent years in an “unspoken compromise” with his family, neither confirming nor denying his identity. But Timane couldn’t deny his truth for long: he had a breakdown in college while studying business management in London, a city where he could live his truth despite family pressures to agree to an arranged marriage with a man.
This personal crisis was his turning point. “I broke down crying in front of my school counselor,” Timane recalled. “She appeared almost like an angel to me because she just listened and passed me a box of tissues. I just kept saying that they’re going to take me home because I’m a lesbian, and I have to marry this man.” With the help of his counselor, Timane transferred to a school in Los Angeles to start life anew. “[Nigeria] is culturally very transphobic and homophobic,” Timane said. “I came here escaping that. Those were very dire years of feeling orphaned and then the culture shock of not seeing my family. I never went back.”
The St. John’s Transgender Health Program staff: Sophia Larios, Teanna Herrera, Timane, Ethan Patron, Reggie Chavirra, and Queen Victoria Ortega
Timane, like 20 to 30 percent of the gay and transgender population, abused drugs and alcohol to cope before questioning his situation and the role of God in his life. Newly sober, he attended Claremont School of Theology to study religion, social justice, and activism in the hopes of understanding the intersection of religion and queerness.
This education and understanding emboldened him to openly live his life as a man and share his knowledge. “I found the courage, at that point, to transition,” Timane said. “That’s when I went into ministry, to help other people who were African-American or African or Latina or influenced in any shape or form by religious persecution.”
Timane developed his own philosophy that “these people choose this just to oppress you.” He also used biblical support to craft his own beliefs of love and acceptance. Shortly thereafter, Timane began speaking with people all over the world, on- and offline, to help them see through discrimination from their various religions and societies.
“I offered them a more affirming biblical interpretation,” he said, pointing out antiquated Old Testament misinterpretations that are often used as a basis for hate. Timane realized at this time that, while helpful, he was unable to treat patients who expressed anxious and depressive tendencies. He accordingly pursued licensed therapy, getting a master’s in social work from the University of Southern California.
Timane was setting himself up to be a help to other transgender people. At the same time, he was trying to cope with his own issues: he was seeking gender-confirmation surgery and other medical procedures that have been proven to greatly improve the lives of transgender individuals by helping to mitigate body dysmorphia. “I struggled to pay for the surgeries,” he said. “They were very expensive. At one point, I had no insurance. Then I did have [insurance], but it didn’t cover anything, and transgender situations were all exclusions. It was a nightmare.”
To cover costs, he turned to entertainment. He started singing and selling music at LGBTQ+ Pride festivals across the country. This fundraising phase not only helped him save money for his own surgeries but also revealed a community anxious to help peers who are struggling to be the most authentic version of themselves. Inspired and motivated by the support, he launched the Rizi Timane Annual Transgender Grant in 2014. The scholarship would help other transgender individuals pay for gender-confirmation procedures and would offset other treatments costing thousands — if not hundreds of thousands — of dollars.
“The first year, I got maybe 300 essays,” he said of the application process. “By the second, it was 600. Last year, it was almost 1,000 essays.” Individuals from all over the world apply, but only one or two people receive funding each year.
Rene Chavarria, a transgender man living in New Mexico, applied for help with “top surgery,” which is a double mastectomy to create a male chest. “Where I come from, in a small town, the pay isn’t all that great,” Chavarria explained to POPSUGAR. “I kept running into dead ends: having to pay for rent, putting food on the table, and paying for all the utilities and stuff. It was really impossible for me.”
“I felt like I was at an end, where it was never going to happen for me,” Chavarria said. He applied on a whim and won. He was unsure if the situation was real. Even today, he still can’t believe his dream came true. “I still catch myself trying to go back to the old routine of putting on multiple binders just to make it through the day.”
“Now I just put on a t-shirt,” Chavarria said. “I still can’t believe it.”
Tatiana Rivera, a transgender woman in LA, has been waiting 30 years for the help that Timane’s grant gave her. “As a seamstress, it’s very difficult to save up that kind of money,” Rivera told POPSUGAR with the help of a translator. “For transgender women — especially Hispanic and Latina, especially undocumented — it’s very hard to seek different types of health care.”
When Rivera discovered she would receive the help she needed, she was in shock. “I couldn’t believe it that — at 48 years of age — I was going to have my first surgery,” Rivera said. She explained that she used her grant money for breast reconstruction surgery. “It changed my lifestyle drastically. I feel more secure about myself. My self-esteem has gotten really high.”
The bottom line is that Timane’s grant has changed people’s lives. While this would seem to be “enough” work for the community, he’s become a full-time champion of transgender health by becoming the Transgender Health Program manager at St. John’s Well Child and Family Center in Downtown LA. He’s fostered a community for transgender and queer individuals seeking to get and give help. Every day, he works to foster safety and support via counseling, transgender-specific health care, referrals to various advocate groups, HIV and STI testing, and other valuable resources.
Timane’s current work distills his lifelong efforts, clarifying what he’s done: he’s been there for his peers, and he’s always strived to understand and love and validate them. “You have Caitlyn Jenner out there, you have Laverne Cox out there, so there is more visibility,” he says. “But here — when you’re dealing with real, everyday, down-to-Earth people — they’re still coming here on the buses from Compton and South LA, being spat at and punched and bullied. It’s a whole different scenario. As a community, we have so much trauma. Just having someone to talk to who gets it is a huge deal.”
To further this, Timane is hoping to create a transgender shelter similar to that of Casa Ruby in Washington DC. The goal with this — as in his music, his writing, his advocacy — is to support transgender people in a most base-level manner: by offering them a sense of community.
“Reach out,” Timane advises transpersons seeking help. “There’s always access. It just helps to talk to someone.”
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