My husband had an affair but I forgave him, now I'm worried he'll cheat again

DEAR DEIDRE: AN envelope came for me in the post, containing a photo of my husband kissing another woman.

I felt like I was in a TV thriller.

The woman who wrote the letter that went with it was a work colleague and she told me my husband had been having an affair for four years.

She’d been hurt herself and felt I should know.

I confronted my husband.

He didn’t deny it but was vague about the truth.

My father was dying at the time so I didn’t kick my husband out as I needed him.

Now my father has passed away and I am still with my husband.

But I feel scared for my future.

We’ve had good times together and he’s trying hard but I worry he may stray again.

I’m 41 and he’s 45.

DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds as if he’s realised what he stands to lose.

But explain that you’re struggling and it is going to take a while for you to get over this.

Talk about what went wrong at the time that made him vulnerable to straying.

Work together on those areas of your relationship.

He’s more likely to feel fresh commitment if you share responsibility.

My e-leaflet Cheating – Can You Get Over It? will help.

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