Man is told off for moving to comfort mother at father's funeral

Shocking moment staff member at crematorium interrupts the service to shout at man who moved his chair closer to his mother to comfort her at his father’s funeral

  • Staff at Crownhill Crematorium in Milton Keynes told off mourners at funeral 
  • Unnamed  man moved to give mother cuddle during service after father’s death  
  • Member of staff interrupted service to berate guests for moving close together
  • Son explained he was ‘heartbroken’ by the action, saying: ‘It shocked everyone’ 
  • Added that that the retribution had made a ‘devastating day even worse’

The shocking moment a member of staff at a crematorium interrupted a funeral in order to berate mourners for being too close together has been caught on camera.

An unnamed man, from Milton Keynes, revealed he had moved his chair in order to comfort his mother at his father’s funeral at Crownhill Crematorium, before other mourners followed suit.

But it wasn’t long before a member of staff interrupted the service by waving his arms and shouting at the mourners to ‘move the chairs back’.

The man said he and his family were left devastated by the ‘telling off’, telling Milton Keynes Community Hub: ‘I can sit in a restaurant, I can sit in a pub, I can live at her house, I can travel in a limousine to the crematorium with 6. But when I want to give my mum a cuddle at dads funeral, a man flies out mid service shouting stop the service and makes us split…A devastating day made even worse.’ 

MailOnline have contacted Crownhill Crematorium for comment.

The shocking moment a member of staff at a crematorium in Milton Keynes interrupted a funeral in order to berate mourners for being too close together has been caught on camera and shared widely online

An unnamed man revealed he had moved his chair in order to comfort his mother, whom he had been in a ‘bubble’ with, at his father’s funeral at Crownhill Crematorium before a member of staff interrupted the service to move them apart

In a video capturing the moment on camera, mourners can be seen seated around the room on chairs at a social distance from others.

As the service began, one mourner in the front row moves his chair to be next to an elderly woman, placing his arm around her shoulder in comfort.

The man on the other side of her quickly follows suit, before a person in the second row begins to move his chair closer to a woman seated next to him.

But before he is able to move, a man rushes into the frame, waving his arms and shouting: ‘Sorry, sorry, you have to put the chairs back I’m afraid.’


Attendees at the service were initially placed on seats at a social distance from one another before the unnamed man, who was sitting in the front row, moved so that he could comfort his mother (pictured left and right) 

Shortly after the first man moved, a second man within the front row also moved to be closer to the elderly woman (pictured)

As he approaches the mourners in the front row, he goes on: ‘You can’t move the chairs, you were told.’ 

The stunned group move back to their original position, and the celebrant continued with the service.

Posting the clip on Facebook, the Milton Keynes Community Hub commented: ‘We were contacted by a resident who recently said goodbye to his father at Crownhill Crematorium.

‘They wanted us to help highlight how traumatic and upsetting the experience of a funeral now is, on top of the already sadness people feel when laying somebody to rest.’

However a member of staff rushed into the room, waving his arms and telling mourners to move the chairs back to their original positions 

They went on to share a comment from one of the sons, who said: ‘We are absolutely heartbroken. Me and my brother haven’t been able to leave my mums side for two weeks as it is, being there for my Mum, within her bubble.’

He explained: ‘It scared my daughter and shocked everyone in the room. 

‘This is not how funerals should be and with the guidelines in place for pubs, bars, public transport etc, how this can carry on at funerals is beyond belief.’  

The unnamed man said the interruption had shocked mourners in the room and left the family devastated 

The clip quickly went viral as thousands of Facebook users said they were left outraged by the staff member’s behaviour.

One person commented: ‘Although I do not know them, my condolences to the family involved. I am absolutely f***ing incensed. 

‘The way in which the service was interrupted and the manner in which they were spoken to are beyond forgiveness. I think I would have got up and walked out in disgust.’

After the interruption, attendees moved their seats back to their original position before the service continued 

Another wrote: ‘It is shocking, you should not separate family members who live together when attending a funeral. In fact it’s more than shocking, it is down right cruel!’

A third added: ‘We went through this in April and I was unable to console my own children with the loss of their beautiful nanna my amazing mum.

‘The effect on us mentally is indescribable the pain is long felt. As a family we feel we have not been able to honour my darling mum.’

What are the restrictions on funerals? 

Funerals can still take place and organisations that provide funeral services have stayed open throughout the pandemic. 

In England, a maximum of 30 people can attend. But venues may have different rules depending on how much space they have.

The government’s rules on social distancing apply to funerals. This means that people living in different households must stay two metres apart from each other. 

Those attending must also wear a face covering.

Activities such as singing, chanting, requiring raised voices or playing of instruments that are blown into should be specifically avoided. 

In England, you might be able to have a wake in a venue which has social distancing measures in place, such as a pub or restaurant. 

If you want to have a wake at home, inside or outside, you can only have 6 people in total. 

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