Ex blamed me watching porn for split but she was getting explicit messages from former lover | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex-girlfriend said that my porn use was worse than cheating on her and worse than her abusive ex.

She’s made me feel so bad about myself that I now wonder whether I was the cause of our relationship crumbling.

We were both 34 when we met online last year.

She was still married to an abusive ex-partner.

She’s American and doesn’t want a divorce because she uses his medical insurance for health issues.

We dated then moved in together, but cracks started appearing in our relationship when she found me using porn – something I’ve always done.

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She said I was the lowest of the low for looking at these sites.

Meanwhile, she received explicit images from an ex who’s still into her, which I think was worse.

Every time we argued, she’d bring up the porn and I’d bring up her ex, but she always said that her medical issues caused memory loss and she didn’t know what I was talking about.

We split up and I wonder all the time, was I in the wrong?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Some people are offended when partners look at pornography but in this situation, your ex receiving explicit photographs from an old boyfriend was even more damaging to your relationship.

Why didn’t she block him?

She’s troubled by her past and you need to accept that it was nothing you’ve done.

This relationship has just run its course.

My support pack Moving On will help you.

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